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Sometimes when work overwhelms me, I make myself feel better by laying in bed and remembering two years ago when I was unemployed and used to cry myself to sleep 3-4 (true story) nights a week. It’s so over dramatic sounding but it’s my biggest motivator.

I looked up this post last night and sat and marveled at it for about five minutes. You’d never know by looking at it, but despite the fact that I’d just started interning at an NPO that is near and dear to my family, I was SO over New York. I was exhausted, worn out, and ready to get out of New York. It’s funny to look at that picture and think “she has no idea… that girl doesn’t realize that within three months she’ll be at a permanent job and she sure as hell can’t imagine how much busting her ass for all these years will pay off.” It’s funny but like I said, I look at things like that as my biggest motivator. 

I’ve mentioned a few times over the past couple of weeks at work that I’m coming up on my two year anniversary in January. And each time, I keep getting responses of “but it seems like you’ve been here so much longer!” I feel that feeling a lot too, but where to them it’s awe, to me it is the culmination of more hard work than I ever knew I had in me. I don’t know where the next steps this path will eventually lead me, but as long as I keep that little frustrated 25 year old fire underneath me, I know it’s going to be okay.

"When it comes to making big life decisions, it’s easy to want to ask people we know for advice. And since so many people do it so often, it might even seem natural and good to ask for advice. But when it comes to major choices like career and relationships, I propose that we consult with ourselves most of all. Sure, we can ask our friends and loved ones what they think about our situation. They might even have some keen insight that we are not able to see with our own eyes. However, they will never have the innate knowledge that we possess in our own intuition. The trick is figuring out how to access our own quiet source of wisdom that is available to us at any point of time, which we so often ignore or overlook."

— Are you reading The Everygirl? You should be, because it’s got some really great content and has very quickly become one of my daily favorites.

Tags: life career

meredithbklyn:

Melissa Reyes, who graduated from Marist College with a degree in fashion merchandising last May, applied for a dozen jobs to no avail. She was thrilled, however, to land an internship with the Diane von Furstenberg fashion house in Manhattan. “They talked about what an excellent, educational internship program this would be,” she said. But Ms. Reyes soon soured on the experience. She often worked 9 a.m. to 9 p.m., five days a week. “They had me running out to buy them lunch,” she said. “They had me cleaning out the closets, emptying out the past season’s items.” Asked about her complaints, the fashion firm said, “We are very proud of our internship program, and we take all concerns of this kind very seriously.”

OMG GET OVER YOURSELF AND CLEAN THE CLOSET AND GO GET LUNCH. WE ALL DID IT AND YOU CAN, TOO.

As someone who did their fair share of temping and post-grad internships, I have a pretty strong feeling about this. Yes it sucks to be running errands and cleaning inventory as someone with a college degree, but I am incredibly grateful for the internships that I had. This girl should be thrilled that someone sees enough potential in her to give her a chance and prove to everyone that she DESERVES to be there instead of whining that “it isn’t fair.”

This past weekend, I went back to Marist for the first time in TWO years. I’m advising at my former Kappa chapter now and since the chapter has more than tripled in the past four years, I had to go back and see it all for myself. 
But my biggest observation of the whole weekend was that I felt more comfortable and relaxed than in any of my previous visits. I told my mom that it was because I was far enough away and unaware of the drama but then she also reminded me that this was my first time going to visit with real stability in my life. Every other time I had seen these girls, I had been bouncing around unsure of what my next move was. But this time I actually had news about my life to report and for once felt like a grown-up instead of a confused post-grad.
I’m finally moving  from what I see as “struggling post-grad” into “legit adult” and it feels awesome.  

This past weekend, I went back to Marist for the first time in TWO years. I’m advising at my former Kappa chapter now and since the chapter has more than tripled in the past four years, I had to go back and see it all for myself. 

But my biggest observation of the whole weekend was that I felt more comfortable and relaxed than in any of my previous visits. I told my mom that it was because I was far enough away and unaware of the drama but then she also reminded me that this was my first time going to visit with real stability in my life. Every other time I had seen these girls, I had been bouncing around unsure of what my next move was. But this time I actually had news about my life to report and for once felt like a grown-up instead of a confused post-grad.

I’m finally moving  from what I see as “struggling post-grad” into “legit adult” and it feels awesome.  

Gratuitous picture of your Wednesday. Today I got some awesome advice from a social media superstar, in response to this tweet.
And how was your Wednesday?

Gratuitous picture of your Wednesday. Today I got some awesome advice from a social media superstar, in response to this tweet.

And how was your Wednesday?

Tags: career

GPOmy Friday night: Sweats, a little skinnygirl sangria and my DVR. It’s been a week full of changes and adjustments and this is exactly where I want to be on Friday night. And it’s not even over! I’m assisting at my first work event tomorrow and while I’m really excited, I can’t help but think about how amazing it is that I’m working for one of my grandmother’s favorite causes/organizations and tomorrow, on the first anniversary of her passing away, I’m working my first event. It just gives me more of a feeling that I’m finally on the right path.
Anyway, how have all of your weeks been? Any good updates?

GPOmy Friday night: Sweats, a little skinnygirl sangria and my DVR. It’s been a week full of changes and adjustments and this is exactly where I want to be on Friday night. And it’s not even over! I’m assisting at my first work event tomorrow and while I’m really excited, I can’t help but think about how amazing it is that I’m working for one of my grandmother’s favorite causes/organizations and tomorrow, on the first anniversary of her passing away, I’m working my first event. It just gives me more of a feeling that I’m finally on the right path.

Anyway, how have all of your weeks been? Any good updates?

Tags: life career

Because I know you’re all dying to hear how the big first day went…
I think we’ve found a good fit!

Because I know you’re all dying to hear how the big first day went…

I think we’ve found a good fit!

Tags: life career

Cat’s out of the bag! As if I wasn’t already having THE BEST week ever, I’m so so excited to be joining Carly of College Prepster fame’s Prep Talk team, dispensing beauty advice, talking trends and answering all your beauty queries. 
If you’re not familiar with Prep Talk, it is a fabulous newsletter that Carly sends out each week with recipes, relationship advice and loads of great information. Sign up here so that you can get it when it comes out tonight! 
Seriously though, I’m kind of geeking out. When I wrote down my list of 2011 goals, I wrote “get something published” as a sort of BS goal so thank you to Carly for helping to make that a reality.

Cat’s out of the bag! As if I wasn’t already having THE BEST week ever, I’m so so excited to be joining Carly of College Prepster fame’s Prep Talk team, dispensing beauty advice, talking trends and answering all your beauty queries. 

If you’re not familiar with Prep Talk, it is a fabulous newsletter that Carly sends out each week with recipes, relationship advice and loads of great information. Sign up here so that you can get it when it comes out tonight! 

Seriously though, I’m kind of geeking out. When I wrote down my list of 2011 goals, I wrote “get something published” as a sort of BS goal so thank you to Carly for helping to make that a reality.

Tags: life career

A new career calls for a new bag and when I stumbled across this Olivia + Joy bag in TJMaxx this afternoon, I knew right away that it was exactly the right bag to kick off this new chapter of my life. 
sidenote: thank you so much to everyone for the emails and comments the other day. this whole community rocks and to all of the people who responded letting me know they work in nonprofit, I will potentially be hitting you up for advice down the road. 

A new career calls for a new bag and when I stumbled across this Olivia + Joy bag in TJMaxx this afternoon, I knew right away that it was exactly the right bag to kick off this new chapter of my life. 

sidenote: thank you so much to everyone for the emails and comments the other day. this whole community rocks and to all of the people who responded letting me know they work in nonprofit, I will potentially be hitting you up for advice down the road. 

Tags: fashion career

An Update and An Announcement

You may have noticed that a couple of weeks ago when I mentioned that I was going to be exploring the option of going to grad school, I neglected to say what I would be eventually getting a degree in. 

There’s a reason for that. At the time, I wasn’t ready to share details yet (mainly because there weren’t any), but with my plan for a degree, I’m also taking a flying leap and changing careers and industries.

After a lot of late nights and long days of wondering what I was doing with my life, I came to a pretty big conclusion. I’m not cut out for corporate America. As much as I like PR and social media and beauty products, I don’t have the edge necessary to talk about them for a living.

So I thought about what I’m good at and what else I’m really passionate about and came to a conclusion. NON-PROFIT. I love helping people and in the grand scheme of my life, I want to look back one day and know that I made a difference. I did something that matters. I realize that that statement is a little idealistic and incredibly optimistic, but then again so am I. 

Which leads me to a little bit of a big announcement. I GOT AN INTERNSHIP doing non profit development starting Monday! 

I am so incredibly excited to start this phase of my life and look forward to seeing where it takes me.